Been There, Done That

I get a lot of questions about parents not having enough time and energy to take care of their families. It takes a plan to be able to run a household and still have time for yourself. One way that works for some mothers and fathers is having a schedule. It helps if you go by your own schedule that you make up to fit your lifestyle. The same way a budget works for paying your bills, a schedule will help with running your household.

Children like when they know what is going to happen next. Feed them at around the same time every day. I say around the same time because as with any schedule, you can make changes that adjust to what is happening that day. At some point children catch on very fast and will be able to tell you what is next on your agenda. Be consistent with them.

Having nap time in your plans is good for the children and very good for you. When everyone is napping, that could be time for you. Maybe your time could be when your spouse comes home. Teenagers in the family can help play with the younger kids and you can use that time for you. I know people who are able to put their children to bed early, as the kids are exhausted from a full day of activities. You decide. Whatever you decide, make time for you in your plans each day.

Try to remember when you didn't have kids. Remember when you were dating. I am sure you wore perfumes and had sexy undies to wear and your hair was always done. Just because you have children you don't have to look like you are in combat. A head rag and baby food on your face makes you look like you are in disguise. When you pass a mirror in your house, what do you see? I hope you at least comb your hair and wear some nice looking house clothes.

When you take time for yourself you will feel better about yourself. Men need to remember the days when they were dating also. Shaving and smelling good every time he and his date were together was a must. You get caught up in the moment. Time is something that you can never get back.

Don't forget that your children grow up fast. Take care of you, as no one knows you better than you.

Carol M. is a freelance advice columnist and working mother. She has three boys two of which she has raised to adulthood. She is now a grandma of two and currently works for the Human Resources Administration. She has known numerology since her second child who is now twenty-one years old. She says she uses numerology in her everyday life and finds it to be very helpful.
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